On Letting Go & Holding On

when do you let go?

when it feels heavy on your soul.
when you feel more trapped than liberated.
when it tastes less sweet and more like poison.
when you feel sinking instead of floating.
when freedom becomes a battle.
when you can't tell what you want.
when it's a "i don't know" and not a "hell yeah!"
open your heart to intuition; you'll always know.

If after you’ve examined your motives and you realised you’re more scared than fighting for the right reasons or if you feel you are the only one wanting this to work, then it’s time to let go. At the end of the day, you have to be real with yourself and know what’s best for you. You have the power to control your thoughts, feelings and make the right decisions. And you letting go isn’t a sign you don’t care, it means you’re strong enough to accept things aren’t the way you wished. You realize you need your space to think things through, grow. Use that time to better and rediscover yourself. To set your standards and values so when you decide to engage into new relationships, you know exactly what you want and you put in the right amount of energy to make things right.

when do you hold on?

when hope exists.
when it fills your lungs with air, no matter how deep the struggle is.
when joy overwieghs the sadness.
when white flowers grow from hard places in your heart.
if you don't feel friction, it's worth holding on to.
if it flows, it's worth swimming in.

Finally, learn when to hold & fight for the right things and when to leave the others alone. Remember even the faith of “if it’s meant to be, it will be” needs works so before you throw everything into destiny’s hands, know you have to work for it too. Relationships, friendships don’t grow by themselves. They need to be watered by spending time together, love, trust, honesty, loyalty, commitment, communication etc. (things I admit im still learning to foster)

If you want to stay or get back, say so and even when you want to leave, say so. Own up for your choices. Be real with yourself and tell the people around you so you can be understood.

God bless your relationship,
And the United States of America.
Amen.